by admin | 20 Feb 2026
By Erich Schoeman (Clinical Psychologist | Trainer | Speaker) Matters of the Soul Sex is one of the most powerful and misunderstood aspects of Christian marriage. Culturally, we are fed two dominant narratives. The first says that passionate, exciting sex belongs to...
by admin | 21 Oct 2025
written by Christian Clinical Psychologist Erich Schoeman A Step-by-Step Guide for Christian Couples Infidelity is a devastating breach of trust, but it doesn’t have to be the end of a marriage. With humility, truth, and grace, couples can walk a path of healing. This...
by admin | 30 Sep 2025
RESTORATION AFTER AN AFFAIR A Christian Psychology Perspective By Erich Schoeman (Clinical Psychologist; Trainer & Speaker) Matters of the Soul/Sake van die Siel (www.mattersofthesoul.org) “Sandy is still shaken up. It feels like her world has turned upside down....
by admin | 17 Apr 2020
In looking at how to discuss your needs in marriage (see….), we looked at 10 steps on how to do it effectively. There is however much to be learned from the wisdom of how NOT to do it. It could save you a lot of trouble and fighting. Here follows a satirical look...
by admin | 14 Apr 2020
Couples relationships are all about needs. Needs for love, affection, sex, help with the kids, encouragement, listening etc. Needs not met, half met or never met at all lead to all kinds of dilemmas. One of the reasons we marry is because we admire something in the...
